If you’re anything like me, you’ve had more than one phase in your life where you’ve had a pity party.
Think about the ripple effect from this in your personal AND business life. Your business is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself, your self-esteem and your sense of self worth.
When was the last time you compared yourself to somebody else? We’re going to bet that it’s within the last couple of hours or at the most the last day or two.
This happens all the time!
But where does this get us? Nowhere!
We are all unique individuals.
All 7 billion of us are unique and beautiful in our own way.
We need to stop comparing ourselves to others, stop worrying about what others think to truly get in touch with who we are inside and grow our businesses.
The most common secrets about business: How you feel about yourself is reflected in everything you say and do and therefore impacts the business.
Here are the five tips to liking yourself more so your patients will too:
1. Reframe Your Thinking
Think about all the people in your life that love you. Your spouse, your children, your friends, your siblings and so on. All of these people love and care about you for your good, bad, and ugly.
Are these people all misguided?
Of course not!
You are worthy of love.
You are a special human being. Like all of us you have your good, bad and ugly… so welcome to the human race!
If you focus on the negative things, that’s what you tend to draw into your life. So focus on all the love you have in your life for all of the right reasons and watch your state of mind shift.
2. List Your Accomplishments
I want you to write down 10 things your life that you are insanely proud of! Things YOU’VE accomplished.
Think all the way back to your childhood. Did you win the 100m dash in grade 6? Did you act in the school play?
Don’t focus on how small those things are, think about how important they were to you in that stage of your life.
Write all of these down and keep them in a place you will see them every day. Start your day for at least the next 30 days by reading this list and really reflecting on them.
Read them, feel them, reflect on them and embrace them!
Own the fact that you are a talented and gorgeous human being. That reframe will help you re-focus your life.
3. List Three Things That Cause You Pain
Are there any unresolved conflicts in your past? Any fears or insecurities?
List these things and look for the benefits. The law of balanced energy clearly states that there are equal number of benefits and drawbacks to ALL things in life.
Use an example in your own life. How often has something started out negative in your life and turned out to be this amazing thing?
If you take that construct of the law of balanced energy and apply it on a day to day basis you can look for the benefits in life.
When you can balance out the perceived negatives with positive it will release its grip on you and your energy will expand! You’ll feel more accurately about yourself and your business will flourish.
4. Reflect On Like vs. Love
In my 20 years of experience, I’ve found that people get love and like mixed up a lot. But there’s a big difference!
I love my wife and kids but I don’t like them all the time and I am confident they don’t like me all the time! What the hell does that have to do with me loving them and caring for them? Nothing!
This is called being fully human.
Let’s get the distinction between the two out of the way.
There have probably been times when you have judged yourself when you didn’t like this person or that and you get it confused with love.
No! You can love somebody and seek their highest good and not like their behaviour all the time.
Stop worrying about whether you like this or not. Like and dislike is just a human emotion.
Love is more than that.
Love is bigger than that.
Love is a state of being.
It’s who we are.
Learn to love others for all their good, bad and ugly… but also love yourself!
5. Focus Outside Of Yourself
When you’re in a negative state you feel like your world is getting smaller and tend to look inside.
Look outside at the people’s lives who you touch in both your personal and professional worlds!
Focus on serving these people, expanding them, allowing their lives to function at a higher level and increasing their quality of lives.
Watch how this will lift your spirits, help you feel better about yourself, your contribution to humanity and watch the phone start to ring.
Who you are speaks louder than the words that you’re saying.
80% of our beliefs of who we are and what we’re capable of were developed before we were 6 years old. This is why in our coaching program we focus on the business owner instead of JUST the programs and marketing. These things are just extensions of who the business owner is.
If there’s things in your business that are not optimal and you know it’s not another trick or tactic to get your business to the next level then please reach out!
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